Communication is Key
Communication is the key to any successful relationship. This includes spouses, friends, and familial relationships. The three main channels of communication are the use of words, tone, and non-verbal. The most important form of communication is using non-verbal cues.
One type of communicating may come about because of a conflict or disagreement. Communicating in this case is often easier said than done, so a good practice to use is the EAR skills. This includes channeling your best Empathy skills, Assertive skills, and Respectful skills.
The Empathy skills are used to prevent fueling the fire of a heated argument. This includes the disarming technique. The disarming technique prevents defensiveness by finding and focusing on the kernel of truth - especially the ones that seem unreasonable. Even if you feel like the other person is in the wrong, there may be some truth in the opposing side. Then, it is important to actually express empathy through your response. Finally, the last empathy skill to practice is inquiring more information to better understand the other side.
Assertive skills include using "I feel" statements. It is important to avoid statements such as "You always" or "You never" because that does not leave room in the other person's mind for improvement. A great model to use to practice this skill goes something like, "When (explain the situation/event that occurred), I feel/felt (express emotion) because (your thoughts on the event). I would like (share your hope/desire)."
The Respect skill is mainly just stroking the other person's morale by expressing admiration and appreciation.
When you put these skills together, you will find it takes great humility and a level head to achieve successful communication.
Another form of communication is in counseling and making decisions with the family. A great family counsel has a plan and a consistent format. This format could start out with expressing love and appreciation for those who are there. Then, invite the spirit with a prayer to know the Lord's will and be guided in the right direction while discussing the topics at hand. You can then discuss your topics until you come to a consensus. The gathering should also end with a prayer to communicate with Heavenly Father about your decisions and be reassured that it aligns with His will. The last step in this successful counsel format is simply sharing refreshments together.
It is important to avoid contention and derogatory comments in this exchange of communication. This can be challenging when concerns or opposing opinions cause frustration. You can then turn back to using the EAR skills. Communication is a listening and talking skill. Remember these important skills, and your relationships will work out a lot better than if you don't. It doesn't lead to a perfect relationship, but it will be more successful.
One type of communicating may come about because of a conflict or disagreement. Communicating in this case is often easier said than done, so a good practice to use is the EAR skills. This includes channeling your best Empathy skills, Assertive skills, and Respectful skills.
The Empathy skills are used to prevent fueling the fire of a heated argument. This includes the disarming technique. The disarming technique prevents defensiveness by finding and focusing on the kernel of truth - especially the ones that seem unreasonable. Even if you feel like the other person is in the wrong, there may be some truth in the opposing side. Then, it is important to actually express empathy through your response. Finally, the last empathy skill to practice is inquiring more information to better understand the other side.
Assertive skills include using "I feel" statements. It is important to avoid statements such as "You always" or "You never" because that does not leave room in the other person's mind for improvement. A great model to use to practice this skill goes something like, "When (explain the situation/event that occurred), I feel/felt (express emotion) because (your thoughts on the event). I would like (share your hope/desire)."
The Respect skill is mainly just stroking the other person's morale by expressing admiration and appreciation.
When you put these skills together, you will find it takes great humility and a level head to achieve successful communication.
Another form of communication is in counseling and making decisions with the family. A great family counsel has a plan and a consistent format. This format could start out with expressing love and appreciation for those who are there. Then, invite the spirit with a prayer to know the Lord's will and be guided in the right direction while discussing the topics at hand. You can then discuss your topics until you come to a consensus. The gathering should also end with a prayer to communicate with Heavenly Father about your decisions and be reassured that it aligns with His will. The last step in this successful counsel format is simply sharing refreshments together.
It is important to avoid contention and derogatory comments in this exchange of communication. This can be challenging when concerns or opposing opinions cause frustration. You can then turn back to using the EAR skills. Communication is a listening and talking skill. Remember these important skills, and your relationships will work out a lot better than if you don't. It doesn't lead to a perfect relationship, but it will be more successful.
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